Enough With Bullying! I Am Mama Lion, Hear Me Roar!
I feel so charged with frustration, anger and sadness this afternoon. I have this blog and I figured I might as well use it to express my frustrations, but also to give other moms the courage to stand up for their kids. I have had enough with bullying at my kids school so now the mama bear in me must come out. “I Am Mama Lion, Hear Me Roar!” I feel this phrase is fitting since my last name is Lyon.
In the past couple of weeks, I have become increasingly more aware of how often my twins are picked on at school. For one this somewhat surprises me because there are two of them! Who wants to pick on someone who has a twin brother? Then again, my boys are small so a lot of kids think they can get away with it. This is where the mama lion in me is coming out, to teach my boys that they may be small in size, but they don’t have to be small in wits, confidence, smarts or gumption.
The thing that disturbs me most is that my kids don’t trust their teachers or yard duty to have their back. It wasn’t until I asked my kids about bullying that they started to tell me that kids tell them they are stupid, or tell them to shut up. They also started to tell me about kids kicking them, or tackling them. I started to have regular dialogue with my boys, to let them know that they can always tell me when these things happen, and that they should also tell their teachers. Get this – they tell me that their teachers aren’t doing anything about it! I realize that from a 7 year old perspective, this may not be true, but it is sad that this is what they believe to be going on. It doesn’t appear that the teachers are giving them the impression that they are handling the situation. How on earth are my kids supposed to feel that school is a safe place when this is happening?
The worst part? It wasn’t until a few days after one of the twins was punched in the arm, that I found out about it! And not by the school – my son told me! For the punching, he actually had to go into the principal’s office to give his side of the story. If my son is going to the principal’s office because someone hit him, why isn’t the school calling me to keep me informed?!?!?!? This makes me furious!
I have since learned that there are some 5th graders, as well as 2nd and 1st graders, picking on my 2nd grade twins. What makes these kids think they can get away with being so mean? I know my boys well, and know better than anyone else how annoying they can be at times, but they aren’t mean, and never deserve to be called stupid. I won’t stand for it! I asked my boys, to make sure, if they have ever told kids at school that they are stupid, and they assured me that they haven’t. I know there are always two sides to a story, but if a kid is going to tell my already anxious/nervous 2nd grade son that he is stupid, just because he lost his place in reading/practicing a script for a play, then that is crossing a line buddy! How is that going to help my son overcome his anxieties?
I talked to one of the boys’ teachers last week and she knelt down sweetly and told him to tell her if people are picking on him. She made sure to tell him not to tattle though. How is a 7 year old supposed to know the difference between tattling and telling when someone is truly being mean? I try to explain the difference, but it’s a tough one to grasp. Because teachers have made it clear they don’t like tattling, my boys are now too nervous to tell when kids are mean. At least I have them talking to me now.
I emailed the other boys’ teacher this afternoon and plan to follow up with her and/or the principal tomorrow. This has to come to an end!
My kids only have me for so many years, to stand up for them and have their back. There will come a time when they are on their own and they will have to fight their own battles, but for now – they need to know that I do in fact have their back! I will continue to teach them to problem solve, but I HAVE THEIR BACK!
To make things worse. this afternoon hubby calls and tells me of some injustices being done at his school. I’m not his mama, but I sure feel like marching into the president of his school’s office and giving him a piece of my mind! GRRR
I have some good friends who are teachers, but I tell you what – I am sick and tired of the lazy teachers, professors and doctors that don’t care about the students and their success.