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Why I Tell My Daughter She is Beautiful and Build Her Self Confidence with Adora Dolls (Giveaway)

by Emily Buys 120 Comments

In today’s world, building confidence in our daughters is an important responsibility. Read on to see how I try to instill self assurance in my daughter, and how the Adora Doll, which I received for review, helps me in that process.

Several months ago it seemed like articles kept popping up on my Facebook newsfeed and Pinterest homepage about the dangers of telling your daughter she is beautiful, and how damaging it can be to her self esteem. The general premise of these articles was that by telling my daughter that she is beautiful I was inadvertently telling her that her value was dependant on her looks. As a mother of a young daughter, my initial reaction was “Oh no! I have completely ruined my little girl by telling her she is beautiful. I hope I have time to remedy the situation.”

As I gave this issue some serious thought, something just didn’t sit right with me about banning the words “you are so beautiful” from my conversations with my little girl. While I fully agree with the concept of making sure girls feel empowered beyond how they look, I want to let my daughter know what an amazingly beautiful person she is, in her looks, ideas and actions. I thought back to my own childhood. I have always been a bit on the bigger side, fairly clumsy, my hair was (and continues to be) unruly and I have always had blotchy skin. However, I have always felt beautiful and never lacked the confidence needed to try out for all the plays, sports teams, student government positions and everything else I chose to do growing up.

As I reflect back I believe that this confidence started with my parents telling and showing me that I was beautiful, inside and out. They would tell me that I had a beautiful intellect, a beautiful personality, beautiful talents, was a beautiful friend, sister and daughter and even that I looked beautiful.

I am sure that every parent can see the harm in telling their child that they are ugly, lazy, stupid or worthless. It’s easy to see how a person who is told something over and over again would believe it to be true. If that is the case, I wish to tell my daughter over and over again that she is beautiful (inside and out) in hopes that she will know it to be true.

Instilling confidence in my daughter by telling her she is beautiful, inside and out
Along with telling my daughter that she is beautiful, I strive to do things on a daily basis to show her that this is true, so that she will internalize this belief and use it to live a strong and confident life. Here are a few of the things I do to try to inspire her confidence daily:

Sharing in my daughters interests - even if it means making mud pies

Share in her interests: My daughter loves mud! I do not! However, I want to show her that she should feel confident enough to explore whatever captures her interests. So, I get down and make mud pies right along with her! We dig holes, find worms, get dirty, and hopefully build confidence together!

No Negative Self-Talk- I have come to realize that part of having kids (especially a daughter) is having a little someone who watches and mimics my every move. The other night at dinner I realized what an impact this can have. I had spent all evening putting together a delicious meal for my family and had slightly burnt the edges. The meal was still tasty and nutritious and even if it wasn’t, I had spent a lot of time preparing it. Regardless of all that, and despite the fact that my family seemed to be enjoying it, I found the need to point out all of the faults about the meal, and criticize myself for it’s imperfections. No one mentioned anything, and I didn’t think much of it until I heard my son using the exact phrases that I had in putting down my meal, about a project he had been working hard on for days. I then realized that if I want my kids to be confident and accepting of the imperfections in their lives, I need to model that behavior myself! Whether its my cooking abilities, my body, my hair, or my less-then-Pinterest-worthy craft projects, I need to learn to that there is no place for negative self talk.

Something Wonderful You Did Today– One of my favorite times of day with my kids is bedtime. Every night as part of our nightly routine I tell my kids “something wonderful you did today is…” And take a moment to recognize something special that they did that day. I hope this will help them to learn to be proud of their daily accomplishments, and recognize the talents that make them special.

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*Celebrate Uniqueness– We are all so unique, but sometimes we just want our unique qualities to fade away so we can be just like everyone else (particularly true for girls). As a mom I think some of the most wonderful things about my kids are the most unique things. I want my children to embrace their uniqueness and grow up to show the world what cool individuals they are. So I love any opportunity to celebrate the the wonderful things that make them so special such as unique talents, hobbies and activities that they enjoy.

Adora Doll Alyssa

One of the things I love are the Adora Friends Dolls (retails for 59.99) which can be completely customized to be just as unique as your own daughter. Adora also believes in building self confidence in young girls, and to show it, they launched the Designed by Kids for Kids program. Adora selects a Young Designer to work with their team to create an outfit for the 18” Dolls! What better way to instill confidence in a young girl, than by allowing her to create something fun and very real, which will be distributed all over the world! The winner/young designer will also get a financial donation to the charity of their choice, on behalf of Adora! 

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If you have a daughter then you can get in on this action too! Adora is now taking submissions for their next Young Designer for 2014. Candidates interested in submitting should visit the Adora Dolls Blog for complete details.

Building Confidence in Little Girls with Adora Dolls

Adora Dolls are available with a variety of different hair colors and skin tones, to help your daughter feel confident in her own physical features. Another thing that I love about these dolls are that they have realistic body proportions. The arms and legs, as well as face and neck are a little thicker then some other dolls, helping girls to have a more realistic view of themselves. These dolls come in a standard 18″ so you are able to dress and accessorize this doll in virtually any type of clothing, making your daughter’s doll a reflection of her own uniqueness. Whether your daughter is a ballerina or a chef, a musician or a soccer player she can learn that her unique interests are beautiful and that she doesn’t have to fit into any certain mold in life!

I am learning that raising a daughter is its own special type of responsibility. With all of the ways that the world tries to blur the self image of girls it can even feel slightly daunting. However with a lot of love, reassurance and everyday awareness I hope to instill in her the type of confidence that will allow her to show the world what an amazing person she is!

I’m super excited for what’s next! One Clever Housewife reader will get to choose an 18″ Adora Doll of their choice!! *Please note that if you choose Lola, there will be a delay on shipping as she’s brand new.

The giveaway will end at 11:59pm PT on 2/15. To enter, fill out the form below. Each entry will be verified when the winner is chosen.

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Leanne Cox is a guest writer for CleverHousewife.com. She is a stay-at-home mom to two kids, and a credentialed preschool teacher. Leanne teaches “mommy-and-me” and “preschool style” music & movement classes through her business “Little Stars Music & Movement Classes” . She is passionate about encouraging early childhood education through hands on learning and exploration

Filed Under: Family, Giveaway Winners, Product Reviews Tagged With: Adora dolls, American girl doll, confidence, daughters, parenting, self esteem

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Comments

  1. Rita O'Neal says

    January 31, 2014 at 10:52 PM

    Oh my goodness! My daughter would LOVE “Alyssa – Girl Scout Junior.” That is so cool! I never knew they had these!!!

  2. Carol Diane Cross says

    January 31, 2014 at 10:56 PM

    I love the Allyssa 18′ Adora, my daughter has down syndrome and the blond hair reminds me of her!

  3. itzia says

    January 31, 2014 at 10:57 PM

    I’d want to get the Lola doll for my niece

  4. Anita Sharp says

    January 31, 2014 at 11:01 PM

    I would love the Alyssa Girl Scout Junior for my grand-daughter! She reminds me of me when I was a GS!

  5. laurie says

    January 31, 2014 at 11:04 PM

    My daughter would love this doll!! Thank you for the opportunity!

  6. Deanna McConahay says

    January 31, 2014 at 11:39 PM

    Lola for my daughter Madison!

  7. Maralea says

    February 1, 2014 at 2:39 AM

    My granddaughter would love Alyssa Girl Scout Jr.!

  8. Gina H. says

    February 1, 2014 at 2:48 AM

    Lola for my niece.

  9. Jeri says

    February 1, 2014 at 3:32 AM

    Amazing read.

  10. Missy says

    February 1, 2014 at 5:51 AM

    These dolls are adorable! Would live to get one for my daughter!

  11. Jennifer Taylor says

    February 1, 2014 at 6:04 AM

    I would like Alyssa 18′ Adora Friends doll for my 5 yr old daughter

  12. amy asay says

    February 1, 2014 at 8:54 AM

    Lola friends doll- My daughter is our little miracle baby and her peace has always brightened ours and others lives.

  13. Lisa Chenier says

    February 1, 2014 at 9:54 AM

    These dolls are amazing and I would love to win the Lola doll for my daughter. The way these dolls are made to resemble different skin colors and ethnicities is so cool! Thank you!

  14. norma geiger says

    February 1, 2014 at 10:02 AM

    my daughter does have horrible self estem body image etc. i think the Allysa doll would help me get her on the right path

  15. Anne says

    February 1, 2014 at 11:00 AM

    Great job Leanne, you have always been a beautiful positive influence to all who meet you and your little ones are lucky to have that daily ray of sunshine!

  16. Hope says

    February 1, 2014 at 2:33 PM

    I would love to win the Lola doll for my daughter!

  17. christie says

    February 2, 2014 at 12:15 AM

    I would like the Mia – the girl scout brownie for my 6yr old.

  18. Cynthia C says

    February 2, 2014 at 6:17 AM

    I would like Mia 18″ Adora Friends for my niece.

  19. Mary Casper says

    February 2, 2014 at 6:33 AM

    I like Alyssa for my best friend’s daughter

  20. carol says

    February 2, 2014 at 9:45 AM

    I would like Alyssa 18′ Adora Friends for my granddaughter

  21. Helen Brown says

    February 2, 2014 at 2:00 PM

    My daughter would love a Lola.

  22. Bryanna says

    February 2, 2014 at 2:04 PM

    Lola for my two year old daughter.

  23. Mary G says

    February 2, 2014 at 2:45 PM

    The Lola doll would be perfect for my niece!

  24. Robin Abrams says

    February 2, 2014 at 2:51 PM

    My Granddaughter would love Mia 18″ Adora Friends

  25. Kelly D says

    February 2, 2014 at 3:40 PM

    I would like the Lola doll for my daughter.

  26. danielle lima says

    February 2, 2014 at 4:29 PM

    I really love Lola.

  27. Tamar says

    February 2, 2014 at 5:36 PM

    I like the PlayTime™ Baby Little Princess.

  28. Kristee F. says

    February 2, 2014 at 7:58 PM

    Alyssa would definitely be my choice for my little girl!

  29. eileen d says

    February 2, 2014 at 8:20 PM

    I think i like the Lola doll the most

  30. marian boll says

    February 2, 2014 at 8:35 PM

    For my granddaughter, Alyssa Friends would be wonderful.

  31. Aaron Humphrey says

    February 2, 2014 at 10:16 PM

    I would like Alyssa 18′ Adora Friends doll for my niece

  32. JAMES LYNAM says

    February 3, 2014 at 9:37 AM

    The “LOLA” doll for my grand daughter..

  33. Lisa B. says

    February 3, 2014 at 9:44 AM

    I like the Alyssa – Girl Scout Brownie doll for my niece!

  34. Jodie Rosenblum says

    February 3, 2014 at 10:08 AM

    I’d like Lola for my daughter.

  35. Jacqueline W. says

    February 3, 2014 at 11:58 AM

    I would select the Alyssa for my daughter Melissa, I tell her all the time how I think she is special!

  36. Mary Hodge says

    February 3, 2014 at 5:44 PM

    I would like to win Jasmine because she has the most interesting face, and I find just find her sooo appealing. I love to sew for dolls now that I am retired, so I guess Jasmine would be for me. But I would share her with my granddaughters when they come to visit.

  37. Terri Egelund says

    February 3, 2014 at 6:45 PM

    I like Mia 18 inch doll – looks like my granddaughter.

  38. harold says

    February 3, 2014 at 6:51 PM

    Lola for my granddaughter!

  39. brandy g. says

    February 4, 2014 at 9:28 AM

    I would get the Lola doll for my daughter.

  40. Jessamine D. says

    February 4, 2014 at 10:37 AM

    I like the Mia – Girl Scout Brownie for my daughters ages 2 and 5. 🙂

  41. Linda G. says

    February 4, 2014 at 2:02 PM

    These are darling, I would choose Alyssa girl scout daisy for my niece.

  42. Jamie Lowell Heckenast says

    February 4, 2014 at 2:57 PM

    I would love Alyssa for my daughter. Thank you for the chance 🙂

  43. Nicole Lancaster says

    February 4, 2014 at 4:06 PM

    I would choose the Alyssa Girl Scout Daisy doll for my niece because she is a Girl Scout Daisy and I think she would really love that.

  44. Tatiana Bartlett says

    February 5, 2014 at 9:22 AM

    I like the Mia doll and I think my daughter would love her, too!

  45. natalie yeoman says

    February 5, 2014 at 1:21 PM

    the lola doll for my cousin she would love this

  46. Vicki Wurgler says

    February 5, 2014 at 2:56 PM

    Mia– Girl Scout Junior for my granddaughter

  47. Melissa says

    February 6, 2014 at 5:42 AM

    my girls would love Mia 18″ Adora Friends.
    http://www.adoradolls.com/6-years/18-fashion-play-dolls/mia-18-adora-friends.html

  48. danielle hall says

    February 6, 2014 at 10:40 AM

    Alyssa 18′ and get it for my niece

  49. kim kihega says

    February 6, 2014 at 4:36 PM

    I would choose the Alyssa 18′ Adora Friends doll.

  50. kim says

    February 7, 2014 at 1:25 PM

    My daughter would love Mia – the girl scout brownie.. This is her first year in scouts and she would love Mia

  51. Sarah says

    February 7, 2014 at 1:46 PM

    I would choose Mia – Girl Scout Brownie for my little brownie Leia Graye! It’s her birthday soon and she would love this!

  52. Lindsey C says

    February 7, 2014 at 2:43 PM

    THANK YOU! I have been thinking the same thing, every time I read one of those “please don’t tell my daughter she’s beautiful” posts. I completely agree, and am sharing this post. 🙂 As for the doll, we’d probably choose the Alyssa doll, but I’d leave it up to my daughter in the end. 🙂

  53. Jenn says

    February 7, 2014 at 3:02 PM

    I would love Lola for my daughter.

  54. xty cruz says

    February 7, 2014 at 3:48 PM

    Id like the Alyssa Girl Scout Jr

  55. Martha says

    February 7, 2014 at 3:54 PM

    Lola for Lola, my niece!

  56. Katrina J says

    February 7, 2014 at 5:10 PM

    I would love the Lola doll for my daughter. And I just wanted to add, thank you for this. The negative self talk part really hit home for me. I do that all the time. And I certainly don’t want my 2 year old to start doing that. I need to keep in mind that slightly burned dinners, or not perfectly frosted cookies are alright.

  57. Brittney House says

    February 8, 2014 at 4:10 PM

    I would love the Kayla doll for me niece.

  58. gail says

    February 9, 2014 at 11:51 PM

    my 5 yr would would love this.she loves dolls and this be prwfect to help her recogognoze

  59. gail says

    February 9, 2014 at 11:52 PM

    my little gitk would lov this

  60. Sunrise Boyd says

    February 9, 2014 at 11:54 PM

    I would love the Lola 18″ Adora Friends for my daughter, my daughter loves dolls, but does not have a lot because sadly they cost a bit to much to buy a ton. She’d love it thanks for chance

  61. l.michele sypher-kenion says

    February 10, 2014 at 12:03 AM

    I would love to win lola for my granddaughters first doll.I would like it to be something nice she could someday pass on to her daughter.thank you !!

  62. Katie Alfonso says

    February 10, 2014 at 12:04 AM

    I’d love to win this for my son!

  63. Katie Alfonso says

    February 10, 2014 at 12:07 AM

    *the Lola doll… 🙂

  64. Mary A says

    February 10, 2014 at 12:17 AM

    I want to win this for my granddaugher. I think she would like any of the dolls but I will select Jasmine.

  65. Kris DeVoss says

    February 10, 2014 at 12:18 AM

    Mia 18″ Adora Friends For my granddaughter …They are all so beautiful!!!

    Thank you for the Giveaway!

  66. diane longfield says

    February 10, 2014 at 12:18 AM

    my grand-daughter would love Alyssa because of her long hair. All of the dolls are darling though & I’m sure she would be happy with any of them. My daughter thinks entering is a waste of time, as I don’t win things… but I say you can’t win if you don’t enter! haha – I would even like one of these dolls for myself…& I’m 60yrs old! – I do have an American girl doll, but I think these are much cuter & less expensive, which is a HUGE PLUS!

  67. Kimberly Gowens says

    February 10, 2014 at 1:49 AM

    Would love to win this beautiful doll for my granddaughter. Thank you for allowing me to enter the contest.

  68. Kimberly Gowens says

    February 10, 2014 at 1:50 AM

    Would love to win this beautiful doll for my granddaughter. Thank you for allowing me to enter the contest.

  69. vickie says

    February 10, 2014 at 3:01 AM

    I like the girl scout daisy

  70. janice brown says

    February 10, 2014 at 3:18 AM

    I would love to win the Mia doll for my granddaughter

  71. Lori Haire says

    February 10, 2014 at 5:15 AM

    I would love Alyssa for my daughter.

  72. VALERIE CARPENTER says

    February 10, 2014 at 5:37 AM

    I would choose the Alyssa Adora friends doll for my daughter.

  73. Ramona George says

    February 10, 2014 at 6:30 AM

    I don’t know why we loose that self esteem as we grow up!! When my daughter was four, people would tell her “you are so beautiful. You are ao cute. You are ao sweet”. And other things like thAt and she would answer “I know”. It made people laugh but she did know because EVERYONE told her that. I always try to tell the young women in my church that they are beautiful and sweet or talented or whatever they are. We need to help build there self esteem!!!

  74. Jennifer Robinson says

    February 10, 2014 at 6:37 AM

    I love this blog entry. I have never been confident nor felt beautiful, and helped me realize that if for no other reason, I have to change my way of thinking about myself for the sake of my beautiful, intelligent children. I would love to win the Adora Friend Doll, Alyssa, for my daughter, Nova.

  75. Susan Chester says

    February 10, 2014 at 7:03 PM

    I would like to win Allysa for my beautiful granddaughter.

  76. Heather says

    February 11, 2014 at 3:45 PM

    I would choose Alyssa for my youngest who is also a blond.

  77. Lucy H says

    February 12, 2014 at 12:25 AM

    My daughter would love the Alyssa Adora friends doll

  78. Shelton says

    February 12, 2014 at 12:44 AM

    All the dolls look great. It really doesn’t matter because I’m already trying to win toys/gifts for Toys For Tots this coming Christmas. Thank you for the chance to win.

  79. Benita says

    February 12, 2014 at 6:24 AM

    I like Alyssa, the girl scout. My niece would love her!

  80. Katherine says

    February 12, 2014 at 2:34 PM

    My niece lauren would love Mia

  81. Nina says

    February 13, 2014 at 11:38 AM

    My daughter likes the Alyssa doll

  82. Heather Walker says

    February 13, 2014 at 12:17 PM

    I like the pin a fore seasons doll

  83. Gennie Lancaster says

    February 14, 2014 at 10:17 AM

    I would love to win Lola 18” Doll for my daughter!

  84. Daniel M says

    February 14, 2014 at 11:00 AM

    my niece would love the Alyssa 18′ Adora Friends doll

  85. Denise B. says

    February 14, 2014 at 3:30 PM

    I would choose the “Alyssa 18′ Adora Friends”.

  86. RICHARD HICKS says

    February 14, 2014 at 5:27 PM

    Want to win Lola 18″ Adora Friends for my niece!

  87. Shannon says

    February 14, 2014 at 6:22 PM

    My daughter picked Lola! They are cute!

  88. Leanne G says

    February 14, 2014 at 7:43 PM

    I’d like to win the Alyssa Adora Friends 18 inch doll for my girls!

  89. lisa says

    February 14, 2014 at 10:52 PM

    Jasmine– Girl Scout Junior
    So cute for my niece.

  90. Erica C. says

    February 15, 2014 at 4:30 AM

    I like Alyssa Adora friends.

  91. Melissa Nagy says

    February 15, 2014 at 6:42 AM

    I would like the Lola doll for my 6-year old daughter.

  92. Lesley F says

    February 15, 2014 at 7:06 AM

    I like the PlayTime™ Baby Beary Blue and it would be for my granddaughter

  93. Montana says

    February 15, 2014 at 7:54 AM

    I would love to win either Mia or Lola for my sweet niece Ava

  94. Terry Cover says

    February 15, 2014 at 8:15 AM

    I would love to win Alyssa – Girl Scout Daisy doll for my 6 year old Niece.

  95. Jenny Q. says

    February 15, 2014 at 8:36 AM

    My daughter would love Kayla Adora friends 18″ doll.

  96. Mary Hoffman says

    February 15, 2014 at 8:52 AM

    Aloha Friend: My grand-daughter would have a “Twin in Lola” , she looks just like her! Thank-you for the opportunity to win her!

  97. amy deeter says

    February 15, 2014 at 10:35 AM

    i like Lola

  98. Veronica L says

    February 15, 2014 at 10:42 AM

    I would love to have their Alyssa 18′ Adora Friends for my little one, thanks 😉

  99. Patricia Moneta says

    February 15, 2014 at 10:53 AM

    My granddaughter would love the Alyssa 18″ doll for herself. so I would give that one to her.

  100. elizabeth miller says

    February 15, 2014 at 12:33 PM

    I would love to win the Mia Girls Scout Brownie doll for my daughter Paige who has the same auburn hair and is passionate about being in brownies.

  101. alona y says

    February 15, 2014 at 1:59 PM

    I would love to win the Kayla 18′ Adora Friends for my daughter.

  102. kyla houchens says

    February 15, 2014 at 2:38 PM

    If I were to win this drawing I would choose the Kayla doll as a gift to my niece kylie

  103. tina reynolds says

    February 15, 2014 at 3:26 PM

    I like Mia for my daughter carly looks the most like her

  104. Russell Moore says

    February 15, 2014 at 3:56 PM

    Lola for our granddaughter, Taryn.

  105. susan smoaks says

    February 15, 2014 at 5:13 PM

    i would love lola for our daughter.

  106. Melinda Stephens says

    February 15, 2014 at 5:25 PM

    I’d like the Lola doll for key neice.

  107. Brenda Elsner says

    February 15, 2014 at 5:52 PM

    I love the Alyssa 18″ Adora for my niece.

  108. sandra manning says

    February 15, 2014 at 6:02 PM

    Alyssa Girlscout doll – My garnd daughter would go crazy for this =)

  109. Laurie Emerson says

    February 15, 2014 at 6:53 PM

    I would love to win the Lola for my daughter.

  110. Tricha says

    February 15, 2014 at 7:09 PM

    Lola 18″ Adora Friends

  111. April Brenay says

    February 15, 2014 at 7:12 PM

    I would choose Mia, she looks just like my niece 🙂

  112. rebecca tardif says

    February 15, 2014 at 7:17 PM

    Alyssa 18′ Adora Friends

  113. Michele C says

    February 15, 2014 at 7:55 PM

    I would choose the Jasmine 18′ Adora Friends for my daughter

  114. Noreen says

    February 15, 2014 at 8:26 PM

    Mia the junior Girl Scout for my daughter

  115. Beverly Metcalf says

    February 15, 2014 at 9:03 PM

    They are all beautiful dolls and I think my granddaughter would love the Alyssa 18″ Adora one the most. Thanks for having this contest!

  116. today says

    February 15, 2014 at 9:08 PM

    I would pick Alyssa

  117. Sonya says

    February 15, 2014 at 9:16 PM

    I’d love the Alyssa – Girl Scout Junior!

  118. Allison says

    February 15, 2014 at 9:16 PM

    I would choose Lola for my little girl!

  119. Buddy Garrett says

    February 15, 2014 at 9:23 PM

    I would like to have Alyssa for our granddaughter.

  120. Steven says

    February 15, 2014 at 9:40 PM

    jassmin for my 3 year old

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