Kids And Their Sense of Entitlement – An Issue With Bullying
I have so much work to do, and so many posts to write, but I cannot concentrate until I get this off of my chest. As I just shared on facebook, I just got back from my kids’ school, where I was watching the kids at recess. Last month sometime, I wrote a post about bullying and how fed up with it I am. I decided to start going to the school during recess, since that is where many of the problems seem to occur. Today was the first day I had gone, because we’ve had a lot of rain. While I didn’t see any huge fights break out, I am still disappointed with what I saw. I tell you what though – watching my sweet boys made my heart soften toward them, and my love for them grow even more!
My kids come home from school and tell me about things that happen at school (unhappy things) several times a week. Some of them are minor, and possibly even accidents, such as a kid bumping into them. Then there are issues such as kids telling them they are “stupid” ,or telling them to “shut up”. Then there is some unwarranted physical contact such as pushing, shoving, tripping or hitting. Because I am only hearing one side of the story, I decided that I needed to go up there and watch with my own eyes, so I can learn what things my boys may be doing to bring this behavior on.
I think the younger generations suffer from an increasing epidemic of entitlement and spoiledness.
Today was only a glimpse, but I think I know what the number one problem is, and that is ENTITLEMENT! I think the younger generations suffer from an increasing epidemic of entitlement and spoiledness. In regard to my boys, I think a lot of the problems stem from children seeing other kids with something, and they immediately want it. Once they get it, they don’t know what to do with it, and sometimes even let it go, but because someone else had it – they want it! I’m sorry, but I believe that we as parents CAN and SHOULD do what we can to teach our kids to serve, which helps them think about others instead of themselves. This is one thing we can do to help overcome that sense of entitlement. I think that teachers should also remember that they are educators, which doesn’t just mean teaching math, science and english. While our children are in their care, I would hope that they are trying to teach them to be responsible, capable, and kind human beings – no matter what the subject is.
My boys came over to me a few times during recess, and looked so sad, and it made me sad. A kid bumped into one of the twins, and then felt the need to push him, and it was this kid that bumped into him to begin with!!! Then after playing with a group of kids, they all kind of split up and my twins were playing with a ball, by themselves. They had gotten the ball fair and square, at the beginning of recess. Then some punk kid walks up to one of the twins and straight up took the ball away. My son asked for it back, and when he wouldn’t give it back, my son ran to me with a sad face, and told me what happened. I was proud of my son for not getting aggressive. I told him to go back to the boy and ask for it back, and that if he didn’t give it back, his mom would come over.
I watched as my son nicely asked for the ball back, as this kid just kept turning his back from my boy, and kept walking away while bouncing the ball. Once, my son tried to grab the ball, and it just made the other kid yank it away even harder. I finally walked over and said to the boy, “weren’t the twins playing with that ball?” As soon as I started talking, the kid gave the ball back because HE KNEW it didn’t belong to him. Sheesh!
I know that taking the ball away is not a HUGE deal in the grand scheme of things, but when this happens at nearly every recess, my boys begin to not feel very safe on the playground. Especially when other kids get aggressive over the ball issue. I sat back and watched as the yard duty ladies don’t do anything about these kinds of issues. Kids need to learn that taking things away from other kids is also a form of bullying.
One thing is for sure – I will be up there are recess A LOT MORE, and all of those kids WILL KNOW ME, and they will not want to mess with my kids. I won’t be mean or gruff, but will simply make things right.
As a side note, I am in no way saying that my kids are perfect. I am constantly talking to them about appropriate behaviors, and you better believe that if I ever hear of them stepping out of line, I WILL deal with it! 😉